I was going to write about how I have tried to be a more punctual person in the past year and draw a comparison between arriving on time and cooking chicken for friends and family, but, that metaphor can wait for another time (incase you are wondering the overall message is; be early. it's better to over do it, than under-do it).
Instead, let's journey through the justification of thoughts, opinions and beliefs, in both life and design.
It's difficult to be consciously aware that your own thoughts are only ever processed by you. When you have thought about something for a long time, but never bother to explain to anyone what you are thinking, everyone has no idea how you came to your conclusion when you abruptly blab it out - articulation is incredibly hard when so much foundation has only been processed in abstracted thought and not said aloud.
A great example of this is my opinion on Buzzed. If I said out of the blue; stop sharing buzzfeed stories, stop looking at their website, stop believing their articles and stop supporting them in general, a lot of people might not understand how I have arrived at that conclusion. The underlying factor I consider when explaining myself is most people don't care *why* you feel that way. But if someone does ask to hear your rational, they will sit there in discomfort, only barely refraining to talk over the top of you, wanting to repent everything you say regardless of how true it is.
A differing opinion is always hard to swallow - regardless of what the reasoning is.
[the power to tell what's real from fake] comes from an honest willingness to change your opinions and beliefs based on new facts, so learn to enjoy being wrong. The world might start making more sense. You won't feel quiet as out of step with the rest of humanity. - CaptainDisillusion
When it comes to design, the decision to colour something a certain way for example, has come from the exploration of the idea since it was first conceived in your brain and on paper. Your colour selection may offer balance, it may strengthen the brand or it might just look good on the product: The final decision comes from a long & complex, tangled string of decisions which ultimately led you to that point on that design - I think it is similar to the articulation of your opinions which you haven't spoken. The viewers are seeing a refined version of something which has been meticulously thought about and crafted, where as with design you are seeing something visualised physically which started as an invisible stream of consciousness.
People don't care about your justification for something, they care about how it differs from their opinion, and only want to make your thinking align with theirs. Oh and unfortunately people don't care about your stories either. They want to tell you their stories and want to hear their own voice - but that is making friends 101 - appear interested, and talk about them to them.
It's said that great stories happen to those who can tell them - maybe intelligent points of view are often held by those who can articulate them.
Every time my opinion or action is challenged I always want to justify myself. I want to explain some of my views and show where I collect and create so many of my opinions and thoughts. I want to clearly and eloquently discuss them in a way that isn't defensive or condescending (or even frustrating for the the person to listen to), and the more I think about it, the more I think it is almost impossible. Because in addition to all of this I don't want to be married to my ideas, and have a strict mental law of non-changing opinions. Alternatively I also want to be able to stand for something.
There is no real conclusion to draw from all this. it is a muddied water in the murky lake of neither here nor there. Ironically, the closest conclusion I can gather is; It's important to have opinions backed up by rational thought. It's important to stand for something but equally as important that we don't get stuck and have our minds set and opinions made, in an unchangeable state.
Here is my top ten videos which have helped to shape some of my views - though based on what I have written I don't think you will click any them 😔
Have a great week.